Farzana Gunjan

Why do we need to pour our own cup first

Self love and selfishness is two completely opposite things which is misunderstood as similar nowadays. Self love is never about not caring about other people. It is about loving everyone just starting from yourself.

Why is that? Because when you don’t love yourself and keep on pouring other people’s cup, you’ll expect other people to pour your cup too and the problem here is when you won’t get what you need from them, you will end up in resentment. You will feel frustrated and energy drained. No that doesn’t make those people bad cause maybe they have been trying to pour your cup with tea where your choice of drink was coffee. On the other hand you are thinking you are giving everything and more by pouring that coffee into their cup but they never asked for it. In reality they actually drink tea.

So what is happening here is a mere waste of energy. At first you need to know how to pour that coffee into your cup an drink it only then you can feel satisfied from the inside and then when you serve the rest of the coffee to someone else, it will be out of love, not out of some need. And you’ll also be content enough to ask them if coffee is what they need or not.

So self love never makes you selfish, it makes you capable of loving truly. The true nature of love is unconditional. Otherwise that’s kind of a transaction not love.

PS. Any kind of abuse is not supported here. Tolerating abuse is never self Love, it is self sabotage instead.

02.10.2023